bom,

I believe what you said happens in a lot of cases. It is almost like a self-fulfilling prophecy. They create the situation in their minds before it actually happens.

I definitely don't think you are overthinking things. I think you are analyzing correctly.

Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11