Ok lwb, Im going to offer you something... i have a timeshare but don't have any points until later on this year.. but we get discounted rates because I belong to RCI.. If you want to go with the girls I can get you a place for probably 3 to 400 dollars for the week but I would have to check since its last minute.
Let me know, I would be happy to do that for you.
Your strong.. and a great person.. he's being incredibly selfish right now.. the alien in him.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Wow, tal, you are amazing girl (and cute! PS: You have mail). I am going to stick out Florida with New H, and hope Old H returns for the trip. I have faith he will. I can't thank you enough. Look at this, total strangers working together to make each other happy. Amazing. I am going to email you my cell number so maybe we can meet up some place in Florida.
saffie, Thank you so much. I am in a place where I miss so many things about being a couple: the closeness, the trust, the intimacy, all of that. All of the things H has 'taken' from me. I know now that if we D, when I am ready, I will find someone to share all of those things with. H is making it easier for me to detach by his recent behaviors (I have a gut feeling he is involved with someone new), and that will be good in 2 ways: 1) I can make rational decisions IF H wakes up in time or 2) I will be better off going through the D.
And yes, OW has so many issues. I just feel she (and H of course) robbed me of so many things. I really do hope her conscience gets the best of her late at night. That being said, I am thrilled to see their family stay intact, for the sake of the kids.
Hi Yoyo. Thanks for the hugs. Email me and let me know how your life is....
Thanks Beauty. Night was quiet, schools were closed today so I got extra time with the girls at home. That was nice.
I am pretty sure H is involved with someone new. This saddens me, but I cannot do a thing about it. We were on and off with ML lately but awhile back I told him to not even come near me if he was involved with someone else. Guess what? He hasn't tried a thing in a few days... I pointed this out today by saying something like "My gut tells me you are involved. I am not fine with it, but can't make your choices for you. I see you are respecting the fact that I can't be with you if you are involved with anyone else". He didn't say a single word. This teeny part of me thinks maybe he is just pulling away from me, and letting me think this, so I can get over him quicker....part the other big part of me thinks that he is ratinalizing this because we are on our way to a D..single lifestyle and all that. Blecky.
Oddly enough, we had a nice day together and I am still looking forward to the trip. Crazy I know...
LWB, Your H seems so confused that maybe that tiny part of you is right, that he's just pulled away for other reasons. No, you can't make choices for him, can you? Is he out more? Calling/texting again? Have you thought about just coming out and asking him?
He isn't doing anything differently, except the other day when he stayed out when he should have had the kids. I got the "I was with work people...". Could have very well been true, however I have been burned once with the vague answers ("I was with the playgroup.." when he was with OW), so I don't believe him. IF it was work people, there is someone at work. I haven't outright asked him, I am afraid to. But I think I will in Florida.
Calling/texting...who knows...still on vibrate all the time. However, he doesn't use it as a pillow anymore. lol
Just wanted to add that my H decided to kick off our vacation by NOT coming home at all last night. If it wasn't for the girls, I would so be staying home. Things will change when we get back. I will do whatever I have to to get him his precious check so he will leave the house. My two options are 1) he stays 2) he goes. They both suck, but #2 gives me my self respect and space that I sooo need and deserve.
After I let him know how I felt about his blatant disrespect, I agreed with him to start the trip off right for the girls. I will do my best.
