Bewildered,

You read 'em ALL??? You must be desparate \:D

Before I answer you, please accept some advice about using this board. I noticed you have started 4 threads in the past 21 days. If you spread your story and questions all over the board, you will never get cohesive answers. You've gotten some great responses from some real masters, so I suggest that you pick one of your threads and make it your "Home". Then, post a message on the others to let the folks where you are so they can keep up with your sitch. Eventually, the board will lock that thread and you'll have to move on to another anyway.

I will answer your questions on your thread --
Well, I contronted her with what I know... , which seems to be the most appropriate to where you are right now.

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