I guess it's human nature to want to control something in our lives. The sad thing is, we already do....ourselves.
I read somewhere on the bb recently that sex and money are two big issues for cntrol within a marriage. Usually each one is controlled by a different partner. I found this really interesting and I've been doing alot of soul searching on this. I can't say I'm proud of what I've discovered about myself. I was not the partner that controlled sex. B/c I felt it was used as a form of punishment (witholding), I did a passive/aggressive thing with money. I've never been a financial whiz, but I was generally pretty frugal. Guess what, I got to where I wasn't. I'd have to say that this was where I exerted control. It's sad and I wasn't conscious of it at the time. In fact, if I hadn't read that post and really thought about it, I probably never would have realized what I was doing.
There is no such thing as a coincidence. All that we learn here and in life is for a reason.
