BT - From what I've read the last thing you can do is tell an MLCer that they are MLC! I think the only thing you can do is use the info to maintain your sanity!
Yikes! I wouldn't share that post, or any other post, or any book, movie, internet site, DVD, or any other known media that discusses MLC with your MLC wife.
Go back and re-read the part of the post that says the MLCer doesn't think there's anything wrong with them. If you tell them in any way, shape, or form that you think they're having a MLC, they will despise you.
Nosirreee....that is information for you. This board is YOUR place.
Nuff said.
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Me: 51 W: 50 M 24 yrs EA: since Apr 06 S22, S26, S28 ILYBNILWY:Nov 07
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." Tyler Durden
I told her a while ago that I thought she had MLC and I thought I went through it myself after my Dad's death (2001) and the WTC 911 where I worked for 10 years.
Ok, you've already played the MLC card and it's sitting right there on the table. Now, just let it sit there. Once you play the card it's their turn to pick it up or not
I know it's tempting, my H actually said that this could be partly MLC. It wouldn't do any good to bring it up to him however, should he bring it up, I'm more than willing to listen.
did I screw up? She has not said anything but I mentioned it to the new MC when I pass her in the parking lot today. It fits the W perfectly! I don't need a set back, I was doing so well.
Buddy, don't worry about it. We've all done it. We've all tried to "fix" things. Let it go. Consider it a lesson learned. You didn't screw up...you were just human for a moment. Big deal.
Me: 51 W: 50 M 24 yrs EA: since Apr 06 S22, S26, S28 ILYBNILWY:Nov 07
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." Tyler Durden
The way you describe it, You mentioned MLC in context of yourself. Sounds like you were offering an understanding and empathy that it could happen to anyone given the right circumstances.
But you've put it out there, you mentioned it, she heard it. Leave it at that and let it alone. If she ever mentions it again, just listen. If she doesn't, it does not mean she didn't hear it.
Don't fret. It's in the past, it's over. Move on. Live now.
