You said..."I suppose on some level it feels safer to reject than be rejected. At least there is a feeling of control."
I agree with you on this 100%. One thing my H has complained about is not having any control over anything in his life....but this sitch is in his control...he knows it...I know it...and I think it gives him some sense of control over something! I also think he hasn't moved out because of it.... the fact that he would lose control of the sitch. He said if he ever moved out...it would be forever...no reconciling or moving back because he wouldn't want to look stupid (nevermind that he already does). So by him still being here and "in control" it's giving him the opportunity to figure out what it is that he wants. ??? I don't know...just a guess here...
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Me:43 H:48 M:24 yrs T: 26 yrs 2 kids ILYNILWYA 8-07 - MOW 9-07 H moved out 8-2-08 Back 8-18-08 Affair continues Back home but not emotionally
