Make things better by looking ahead....

[sage]

Jeannine -- thanks for your emotional support, my friend! I know that you are battling your own dragons now...

Gads, sweetie pie! Maybe he needs to get that crappy stuff out into the open and needs to know that you hear him and that his words have weight. In denying your feelings about this stuff, you are denying his too.

yes -- another time when sage wakes up a moment too late and sees the opportunity fly by! BUT, I know now what to listen for and I can take the time (patience, patience, patience) to hear it again...

Im not saying to make ultimatums or toss away the DB principles, just let your H take some responsibility for his past and present behavior in regard to OW. Show him some respect and tenderness toward your own needs and feelings.

Yup. I know I'm not doing him any favors by not letting HIM own what only he can be responsible for.

I'm sending you calm and health and peace and love.

Sage