Help Me Act AS IF, Part 3

[newnamenewlife]

All I'm saying is that if I'm going to be alone, I want to be alone--ie no fake husband living in my house and sharing my bed. And if I do decide I'd like to meet someone else, I would like to be legally single. I would rather just be "out" to my kids, for their sake and for mine, at this point. It is clear my D11 is waiting for the other shoe to drop, yet when she expresses her concern, we tell her "no one's getting a divorce, don't worry sweetie. Just because we don't kiss and hug all the time doesn't mean we're getting a divorce."

How pissed and hurt is she going to be when we tell her she was right all along? When she finds out we were lying to her? And what good is it doing any of us to drag out a separation that seems inevitable?

I know what you're saying, Grace, and I admire your clarity. I value your posts a lot even though it appears that I resist a lot of your advice!