OK, Czm, I lied. I am taking a break from that awful paper for a sec...
I just wanted to share that I know exactly where you are coming from. Filing for a D wouldn't have changed anything for me. I had no desire to even look at another man, so why did I need to get a D? I didn't. And I wasn't ready. So, I too chose option 3.
I will warn you, when my H did go ahead and file, I was very angry at myself for letting him have control yet again. BUT, that was fleeting and I don't feel that way now. I am proud of myself for not reacting for the wrong reasons. In the end, divorce is a shame and I can look back and know that I did what I could to prevent it.
Despite what everyone told me to do, I sat. And, I don't reget it a bit.
So, put it out of your head for now. No sense thinking about it-you're simply not there.
