Beginning again like a newbie

[ACJ]

W2S,
Your posts are always so philosophical and I like that. Thank you.

Take some time to read your recent posts and highlight the things that stand out as positives. Make plans to repeat the positives. Focus on the positives. Even if it means that you work your student to death

I do plan on repeating some of these positives but right now I need to get my priorities in order and partying can't be top of my list

Look how you have changed these things. Look how you have changed

You are right I made all of these changes happen for (and by) myself.


/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/ - please fill in all these slashes with the strongest expletives you know! H just called round to take the girls out for a coffee. Originally it was just D12 but when he realised D17 was here he invited her too (this is a positive). A few days ago I opened a letter for him (I've been opening all the mail that comes for him for the past 12 months as most of it is junk but I don't want to throw away important stuff). It was a share dividend and had a cheque attached. I was going to just deposit it in his bank account (took the details off the cheques he has been giving me) but decided he might not take kindly to that. So I gave it to him tonight. He queried why it was open and I gave the explanation that I have just given here. He said he wasn't very happy with that and he would prefer that I not do it. I said ok I will stop but you will have to come by and open it yourself more frequently than you were doing b/c I don't want all the (mainly) junk building up. He said 'Well I see S15 every week'. I know this isn't true (unless of course S15 is seeing his dad w/o telling me) and said as far as I know no you don't. However I don't wish to argue with you and I have given it to you now. I then carried on with sorting my own mail out that I received today (most of which was also for the shredder!)

So it seems that even when I try to do the 'right' thing it's wrong. I'll probably get another letter from his L forbidding me to open his mail etc etc. If he wants to waste his money like that this is fine by me.

The interesting thing is that even though these shares are in his name I know it is his mum paying for them and hence are really her shares. The company he works for offer their employees shares every year at a reduced cost and many years ago we couldn't afford to invest at that time so he offered the opportunity to his mum. I suppose he is worried that I will tell my L about them. I don't intend doing that as I wouldn't do that to my MIL however what I don't think he has thought about is that after the move he took over his own affairs the other week that these shares and other money that is really his mother's but in an account in his name really need changing over the rightful owner b/c if God forbid something happened to him before her she would not have access or claim to her own money!

I wanted to say all this to him but didn't. He's made it perfectly clear that he doesn't want me in his life (or in the life of his family if he had anything to do with it) so I will not interfer. Neither will i say 'told you so' if he ever comes home.