I couldnt believe this para, I could have written this myself:
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It's ridiculous to me that we still mainly connect only via email, and never use the phone. And when I think about her reasons for leaving, they (still) seem to just not be that severe as to merit moving out. I was just feeling so frustrated today...that this doesn't seem to make sense!! Why the heck are we apart, when we get along so well??????
This is exactly my position! We are also still only mainly in email contact. I thikn that its "safer" for the WAS...its less invading of their privacy and they can "control" the exchange more than a phonecall. If its all they can manage, be grateful as I am that they are doing this at least and didnt just leave a PO Box number and disappear! And yes, we too were the best of friends before and in the R and no reasons given that warranted such a spectacular walking off! And whatever the reasons were, I like you feel that, we could have overcome them, they werent insurmountable at all! It is so frustrating isnt it, but all I can say is, I'm right there with you, I totally get your incredulousness at the direction shes chosen to force your lives in. But for them (and we dont understand this bit), this is something they felt compelled to do. And that bits not about you (or me!), thats down to their basic persobalities, or childhood experiences, unfortunately.
I think its great she asked about booking more MC sessions in, she is giving it priority, I guess she wants to book up now to make sure you dont miss the slots, that shows commitment! It is a wierd landscape you find yourself in, but try and be grateful she is giving you a little 2nd chance by going to MC...did she go at first only to help you two break-up? Did I rememebr that right? I bet deep down that cant still be the motivation for making sure you book more sessions in ?
You do sound like a lovely, intelligent, thoughtful man. You have picked up the DBing straight off and I reckon it will continue to work for you...shes telling you her plans at least!
