Help Me Act AS IF, Part 3

[newnamenewlife]

But there comes a time when you do have to just let go - let the rope drop - and the old saying "if you love something, set it free..." really holds true (at least in my opinion).

I agree. For me, it would be much easier to set him free by having him move out at this point. I find it extremely painful and lonely to have him here, to put on the show for our kids and friends (who come over a lot). I am very amibvalent, too, CW, about being the one to kick him out (although I kept shouting at him yesterday in MC to get the f**K out.) He has no job right now and we live in one of the most expensive cities in the country. He is also very passive and conflict-averse and so who knows when he'll ever have the nerve and/or the resources to actually leave.

I guess I gotta keep trying with the GAL/detaching stuff anyway. As I've said before, though, I'm not getting any younger and if I'm going to end up single, I'd like to be able to take advantage of it before I'm in the nursing home, fighting with the other old ladies for the one man that's still breathing!