Make things better by looking ahead....

[sage]

I've come right out and said it a few times and actually in c appointment the other night I used the word..petrified...but what are we so afraid of?? we know that we can and will be ok no matter what happens so why are we allowing our "fear" to rob us of the new found pleasure in our r's???

I think I'm afraid of a bunch of things -- of messing up, of being happy -- really and truly happy, ecstatic, delirious -- in the m. only to find out that it's a joke, a ruse, built on lies. I'm afraid of having my heart broken (even tho' I DO know that I would be ok), of hurting my h. without knowing it. I'm afraid of believing something that isn't true, of being laughed at, lied to. I'm afraid of losing what I love, who I love. I'm afraid of letting myself love for fear of losing!

I'm ready to tackle this hurdle..let's come up with a plan of action.

COOL! Where do we start????

Right now, I'm just trying to "sit" with it -- when I feel sad or scared I try to breathe deeply and actually REALLY feel it.

Acting "as if" I'm not scared helps, too.

Journalling the good things to counteract the mental images...

Sage