((((((E)))))) It sounds to me like you are doing pretty well, though I am sure it doesn't feel that way! I think for the next month, the best you can do is to get through one day at a time, and then get through the next one. You know he isn't going to change his mind, and you know he is going, so at least you don't have to walk on eggshells as much.
Once he is gone, if he wants to wpew on finacial and legal stuff, ask him to spew on your lawyer! Or his! I'm sure it won't be fun, but if the negative spewage can get transferred tot he lawyers, maybe there will be less between you and H.
Well the last two days have been very interesting to say the very least...
H is on the afternoon shift so pretty peaceful at home.Very different....nice
While at work Tuesday...and this is the interesting part...a very cute guy came into the office. Dropped his resume off and we began to talk.
He asked if my H was still at home and I said yes until the 16th of March.
He stayed for my entire lunch hour!Gave me his card, he is a personal trainer and motivational speaker, and told me to call him!
He is 15 years younger than me!
Yeow!
He must think I'm someone else... He only wants a job...Every other excuse has entered my mind about why he stayed until he showed up again yesterday!
Stayed for the entire lunch and asked why I didn't call him!
I'll fill in the blanks a little here....He was in a very bad car accident about 10 years ago and died on the table. He was in a comma and did finally come out. He was totally incapacitated and needed rehabilitation for 2 years! This guy is so positive it is refreshing.
The hospital uses him as an example for rehab at their facility. This guy came into my work, on Tuesday, during my darkest days for a reason.
I totally believe this and that everyone you meet you can learn a life lesson from.
Yesterday when he came in while we were talking he also let me know, in very subtle ways, that he likes older women, that he does not drink, and that he has a totally hairless body
He asked me to give him a call and meet up for coffee, heck for lunch or supper!
Wow! After H's A, I felt totally degraded, ugly,and well you know the rest. I know it wasn't about me but still it hits and it hurts.
I absolutly believe I met this guy because I needed the positive energy in my life. You can never have too much of that or new friends.
I think I will call him to go for a coffee but that is it.
Don't worry I'm very flattered but I still want my H to spend the rest of my life with. This feeling is nice but I know it is fleeting and if I have to go through another MLC in the future I'l loose it
Very nice just the same.
Sweet dreams last night for the first time in a very long time.
E
"Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our true direction"
You need to decide what you want. Do you really think he wants to be "friends"? Do you? Is that all you want? For what it's worth, I think you need to be "done" (translates into D) before you start dating. I would also offer that even when you are done, after all of this are you really ready for another R? I know I'm not and probably won't be for quite awhile. I have too much work to do on myself before I have anything to offer someone else.
Now, let's say you want to be just friends Why? what's your motivation? Just to have a male friend? I get that, but given he's shown his intrest in you, I'm not sure this man is the best choice.
Ultimatley, you have to decide what you want and what's in your best intrest.
