New and alone

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Jen,
It is natural for the WAS to look sad. They are also going through a lot and most likely are NOT happy. My H always looks very sad (part of it is also guilt).

I'm sure your H knows that you care. You've probably told him more than once that you want to work on your M - he knows how you feel. Try to detach some more. Don't nag him about anything. Go about your own life, get involved with other activities, spend time with D, be pleasant around him, don't initiate contact and do not question him re his whereabouts. Right now trying to show him that you care will put more pressure on him and he has said he wants space. It is very difficult to implement all of this - you have to really psych yourself to just do it and you can do it!!!