I just came over from wallowing in my own thread to read about your situation. You've given me some great advice and support. I didn't read all of your threads (to say it's voluminous would be an understatement!), but I sampled enough to understand.
Concerning your present situation with your H, all I can say is, wow. Largely through your efforts, your H has been absolutely transformed. From the sound of it, his attitude toward you and your M is just the way I want my W to eventually be. I know things aren't perfect for you, but you have come such a long way. Truly incredible and inspirational. Wow!
