Help Me Act AS IF, Part 3

[fandgmom]

With my sitch, the bomb dropped on 12/17/05 - then the 2nd bomb dropped about MOW on 12/25/05 - it took until 1/16/06 for my H to move out. We both made the decision (even though it was not at all what I wanted and I made that perfectly clear) because neither one of us could continue to live like we were. Now, my children, at the time were younger than yours are now. My son was only 4 and my daughter only 6 months. It was hard, but there was not alot of explaining to do. I don't know what I would have done if my kids were the age yours are. I really do not know. After my H moved out, he completely "checked out" of the relationship, detached from the kids, and then in about a month or so, he started to realize what was happening - he was losing our son because of it. Things started changing around that time, things also got worse before they got better.

Both my H and I look back on everything and realize that we needed for that all to happen. As much as it sucked, he needed to move out - to experience what it would really and truly be like, not being a family. AND, I needed for him to move out, without that happening, we wouldn't be where we are now.

I am not saying that it is the answer nor am I saying that your H will end up feeling exactly like my H. But there comes a time when you do have to just let go - let the rope drop - and the old saying "if you love something, set it free..." really holds true (at least in my opinion). I knew in my heart of hearts, that if we were meant to be, we would be. And I thank God every day that we are.

HUGS!