Make things better by looking ahead....

[sage]

I wouldn't worry to much about h's love language..it may very well be that if you're happy he's happy..so be happy.

LL

LL -- You've definitely hit the nail on the head (at least in part!). I believe that my h thrives on feeling as though I am happy, satisfied, loving, loved. I think that a big part of the initial demise of our m. resulted from my anger and unhappiness...and somewhat his feeling that HE couldn't make me happy, never would be able to, etc. I realized at some point during DB'ing that I wasn't letting my h in...letting him love me...and I'm sure that that hurt him. Of course, now (post-a) it's so hard to make myself vulnerable to him...

There are times when I wonder if your h. doesn't partially hold the same fear... ???

Sage