What's this about...??

[bombardier50]

If I have gone too long between ML times I can find it hard to get revved up again. Once things are smokin' again, aslong as we keep the embers warm it's easy to fire everything up again pretty instantly, but if the whole darn fire has gone out and needs starting from scratch it requires a whole lot more effort - do you catch my drift? Am I making sense?

Hoooo boy...you make perfect sense. First...some background. We hadn't ML in months, and then, about three months ago, she initiated. It was...well...pretty unremarkable. Certainly no fireworks, from my perspective. Of course, I enjoyed it all the same.

However, she has mentioned several times now how she "didn't feel anything" and "there just wasn't anything there."

Well, of course not. Her pilot light went out. I've been meaning to tell her that I think her expectations were toooo high. I also think that her initiating was a test to SEE if she felt anything. And the fact that she didn't, probably made things worse for our relationship. She made an invalid assumption.

Very interesting.

Bomb