Hey Scotty and Wiley,

Thanks for coming by! Wiley, you're definitely right that I should reflect on the things that are working...and NOT get ahead of myself, too!

Some things that are working:
Listening more and REALLY listening (not distracted, etc)

(Finally) Letting h. make decisions for him and for us without my input

Noticing, appreciating and thanking him for ALL of the things that he does for us

Going out together (movies, dinner, drinks, etc)

Staying in together

Being truly interested in the things that interest him

Not freaking out when he seems "distant"

Maintaining my PMA, myself!

Understanding and stopping the behaviors that impacted our M (working on this)

Stopping my obsession with ow (ok, obsession is too strong of a word -- but putting her out of my mind)

Relinquishing control for everything

Asking him what HE thinks

Releasing my anger

Forgiving him and myself

Meditating every day!

Being honest with myself about what's real and what's in my mind

Treating him with respect (I hope he feels this) because he truly deserves it

Recognizing that I have been angry at him for a lot of things that were not his fault. Apologizing for that.

There's lots more....

Sage

Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.