Hi Pink...glad your in a better place right now. I have to agree with NikB though about H sounding controlling and manipulative towards you. I'm not trying to blast him or anything so please don't take it the wrong way...I'm just an outsider lookin' in.
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My husband told me a several times that he never had an argument with another woman. That he grew up not seeing his parents ever argue. Never and if a woman argued with him he would toss her out the door and stop dating her.
From this comment I gather that H parents probably had the same type of R that you are dealing with right now. H's father may have had the same type of attitudes towards women and his mother just endures it in silence. Of course I know nothing of them and I'm NO professional, but this is the first thing that came to my mind.
Please take the time to take care of yourself right now. This is the most important thing I absorbed from reading DB/DR. When I got back to being the person I used to be (for me....for real), H took notice and started to open up a little more. And you know what...I feel better about myself bcuz now I realize that I can be happy WITH or WITHOUT my H....and that feels DAMN good!!!
Continue to do those things that make you happy...that you enjoy doing. You will become a stronger, happier person...trust. That is what we are all striving for and if our R with our S's improves....BONUS!!!! LJ
