What's this about...??

[bombardier50]

Excellent - Yippee - Saffie does a cartwheel and then creakingly shuffles back to the PC.........

You weren't...um...wearing a dress when you did the cartwheel...were you?

Would she feel more comfortable reading about this...

Knowing her, probably not. Don't think it would do much good anyway. I know why she's having trouble turning the switch back on. Her emotional attachment to me isn't there yet. And ladies, correct me if I'm wrong, but before you feel the desire to ML, you need to trust your partner and feel an emotional attachment to them.

By the way, Grace and Saf, having some smart ladies helping me along here gives me an enormous warm fuzzy. I still find women to be so...mysterious. But I'm learning...

My tests are simply pass/fail while hers are essay and take more time to grade. :-)

Doa180...that is the funniest analogy I've heard in a long time...;-0

So...another question.

Why does she keep bringing this stuff up...on an almost daily basis? Right now, these are unanswerable questions, but it just intrigues me why she keeps asking them aloud...
Bomb

[saffie]

You weren't...um...wearing a dress when you did the cartwheel...were you?

Now that would be telling - esp after you told me to go commando

Why does she keep bringing this stuff up...on an almost daily basis? Right now, these are unanswerable questions, but it just intrigues me why she keeps asking them aloud...

Maybe she is being rhetorical? Maybe she feels very insecure and keeps wanting to check the temperature of things? Maybe to see if she can get another reaction out of you?

And ladies, correct me if I'm wrong, but before you feel the desire to ML, you need to trust your partner and feel an emotional attachment to them.

I would say that this is usually the case for me. However, there was a time in my M, just before the bomb hit, when I knew I wanted to ML with my H but things had felt so 'wrong' for so long that I didn't know how to approach him and I was a bit scared of rejection. There's also the 'if you don't use it you lose it' sort of thing too. If I have gone too long between ML times I can find it hard to get revved up again. Once things are smokin' again, aslong as we keep the embers warm it's easy to fire everything up again pretty instantly, but if the whole darn fire has gone out and needs starting from scratch it requires a whole lot more effort - do you catch my drift? Am I making sense?

Also. I haven't hit the menopause yet so I don't know if this makes a difference, but sometimes you can just want sex. as I value my wedding vows then that's with my H - but if I wasn't married, well I guess I MIGHT just go and find someone I fancied for some no strings attached sex; I guess the kind of thing you fantasize about but don't actually do.

You know - in the UK they reckon 1 in 10 children is brought up by someone who isn't the child's biological father, ( even though the child and the 'father' don't know this). Surveys have shown that in the three days around ovulation is when a woman is likely to wander from her partner for sex. She will naturally be looking for who will mix best with her gene pool for reproduction as opposed to looking for the attributes of her long term partner. At this time women tend to be attracted to the more Neanderthal (sp?) type. So I guess there is a big difference between ML and other sexual urges and ML is the more complex I would think - the other is just animal instinct. Thoughts anyone?

[bombardier50]

If I have gone too long between ML times I can find it hard to get revved up again. Once things are smokin' again, aslong as we keep the embers warm it's easy to fire everything up again pretty instantly, but if the whole darn fire has gone out and needs starting from scratch it requires a whole lot more effort - do you catch my drift? Am I making sense?

Hoooo boy...you make perfect sense. First...some background. We hadn't ML in months, and then, about three months ago, she initiated. It was...well...pretty unremarkable. Certainly no fireworks, from my perspective. Of course, I enjoyed it all the same.

However, she has mentioned several times now how she "didn't feel anything" and "there just wasn't anything there."

Well, of course not. Her pilot light went out. I've been meaning to tell her that I think her expectations were toooo high. I also think that her initiating was a test to SEE if she felt anything. And the fact that she didn't, probably made things worse for our relationship. She made an invalid assumption.

Very interesting.

Bomb

[saffie]

And perhaps Bomb, she just had an itch to scratch and once she had done that she ran back into her tunnel. Maybe that's why it was enjoyable but no fireworks etc - perhaps your bodies sensed it was just sex. I think ML is SO much more which is why it means so much more - we invest in ML - we give - we trust. The other is just a fcuk when all is said and done and for me that doesn't keep the embers glowing.