All Hope is lost/Help - Part 2

[Jen_Jam]

Hmmmmm.... for a man who feels he didn't spend enough time with his family how is moving out helping him do that? Seems he's moving even further away from his goal. Or he's beating himself up about the past.

So many WAS's do ... ARGH!! Us LBS's who pick up the DR book get the benefit of a whole toolset of skills to use to make life better. The WAS doesn't, they seem to thrash about, clueless. They won't read the DR book either - even my H hasn't!!! I've told him countless times it can make LIFE better, that its principles can be applied in numerous situations, but still he prefers to thrash about clueless (not about our M, I mean things like work)

But back to you ... what is your H going to change? Has he made any positive changes so far? Or has he just sat about in his wet nappy? (sorry to sound negative, one of my pet heates is the person who cries "poor me" then does nothing to change their situation). What is HE going to do to get HIMSELF out of this situation? (and of course, you will help him if you can, but most of the work has to come from him)