What's this about...??

[bombardier50]

Fellow LBS Warriors,

Well, we certainly had an interesting evening! Would love to hear your inputs.

So...decided to be spontaneous. Wifey comes home from work, there's nothin' in the 'fridge. "What the heck. Let's go out to eat."

We get a table. She's in a great mood. She orders a glass of wine.

Important note: for my wife, a couple of glasses of good riesling is the equivalent of sodium pentathol. Three glasses and were sharing her darkest secrets.

The restaurant was busy, so it took awhile to get our order. One glass down. I go to the bar and get another.

She is VERY chatty. Talked about her day, her friends, etc. I listen intently, ask questions, show genuine interest. Now she's laughing, were joking around. The meal comes, we continue our lively banter.

Need another glass of wine? Sure.

We clean our plates...the table is cleared. Our animated conversation continues.

And then, all at once, she stops. She fingers the stem of the wine glass and stares deeply into her riesling.

I look at her and smile. Here it comes.

Important note #2. Everytime she feels herself growing closer to me, her protective mechanism kicks in and I get stiff-armed. I'm used to it.

Here's an almost verbatim list of what she said. My responses to each of these gems was either a smile, a cheerful "OK", or an "I don't know, either."

I think maybe we get along better as friends.
I really don't think I want a divorce.
I don't know if we'll ever be more than friends.
I don't know if I'll ever feel sexual towards you again.
I don't know how to turn the "sex switch" back on.
I really like talking to the MC.
I don't know if I'll ever want to share a bed with you again.
I still feel like I have more adventures I want to experience.

And there you have it. Being a "glass half full" kinda guy, I feel a lot of optimism when I read between the lines. I hear doubt and confusion, and if I can just be strong and be still...

What do you think?

Bomb