Well the small peeking continues. Spent a long weekend with W and kids and it was the smoothest time together in probably 5 months. No alone time or R talk, but shared some laughs and went out with her best friend's family. she also decided that she wanted to do a small familty get-away, which is a positive. I have continued no snooping, which I know helps both my PMA and our ability to get along. I also continue to be better at not asking questions. I realize she took these as interrogations, and in truth they were for the most part. But I have found that the less I ask the more she is telling at this point. As an example I asked how a kids event was going, and she said she was not there but told me exactly what she was doing. If I would have asked why she was not there it would have been bad :-)
I did see a fiancial analysis, though. It was not through snooping, it was in the back of the car in plain sight. It had our current budget sitch, a together budget, and an alone budget. Before I would have been mad by the implication of the worst case scenario, but now I was happy to see the time and thought she gave to at least considering a future together.
As you all know it is so difficult not to push during this time. I want to take the positives and move them forward rapidly, but so far I'm able to take it easy. I know she is busy and am respecting that by sending fewer e-mails. I feel lost though, and want to continue the good weekend...
I am also wrestling with how to show her I respect, admire, and appreciate all she is doing by herself with the kids, working, etc. I am afraid of sounding like I am just trying to say the right things to make her happy, but I rally feel strongly about this and know that she has not felt appreciated in the past. Any advice on that?
