We went to Retro Oct 26th through the 28th - and unbeknowns-to-me (sp? LOL!!!) OW had called him on his bday 9/11 and they had been starting to talk again - I don't think he called her from Retro but she knew we had gone from her note to me.
H liked that we were learning how to truly communicate our feelings to one another. At one point I had expressed that I felt like an old used toy being discarded for a new one - this about blew him away. There are a ton of tears and you NEVER have to share anything personal if you don't want to.
About discussing the A - you first need to learn the tools in good communication and it's not until later in the post sessions that you learn how to write about a conflicting area(s) in your M.
I maybe suspected OW was back to some extent - just how my H was starting to pull away once again but I was not ready to throw him out - I just did not realize the impact Retro would have on him.
I think you gain either way from going to Retro - you either really start working on your M for real or you learn how to be with each other in a D situation.
HB
Me41 H44 * M16 yrs * D13 S10 8/06 H wants a D * 1/07 OW Truth 2/07 Searated * 7/07 H moved home First Thread Surviving Separation Now Piecing
