Make things better by looking ahead....

[sage]

Oh, man, could you ask your H to talk to my H about the cleaning?

Here's my magic bullet: say nothing about the stuff that isn't done and notice, appreciate and praise the stuff that is.

Truth be told...h is MUCH neater than I am so I'm not one to talk. I appreciate the fact, though, that he's been cutting me a bunch of slack lately in terms of my messiness! Keeps talking about how hard I work, etc. One thing I've noticed is that h's renewed enthusiasm about cleaning the house has inspired me too....I'm much less likely to leave dishes in the sink, etc, since he's been working so hard!

About the "could this ever happen again" issue...it's very strange (I think ), but I rather feel like what I've been through has pretty much prepared me for anything.

Like if I were to find out CJ was still in touch with OW, or a new OP, I would be able to handle it (not exactly sure how...DB or D), but I'm stronger now, I trust myself way more than I did before all of this. JMO

I don't think this response is strange at all...in fact, it's very wise! Knowing that you can't CONTROL with certainty what's going to happen but feeling confident that you'd handle it??? Sounds good to me!

Here's to more good days! Ever think of compiling a file of the "good stuff" to reflect on when you're feeling down about things???

That's partly why I journal all this stuff...as mundane as it may seem! That way I can go back and look at it!

Sage