Finding my way out of the dark

[missmyfriend]

...I was equating being proud of him with approving of what he is doing and I realized that the two are not really connected...

I had been afraid of the same thing. Then I realized the same thing you did. I can be proud of one thing without showing approval for another. Even if she felt I was condoning bad behavior, which was unlikely, that was her problem, not mine. I want her to know that she receives positive reinforcement from me and that I am a safe place for her.

I remember trying to please my parents and it seemed to be impossible so I quit trying. It was positive in the sense that my father did not have a good moral compass so I ended up trying to do the right thing. Weird, huh?