How do you talk to the in-laws?

[Sandyof5]

As I mentioned in my post my FIL has been nothing but supportive. He gets the whole "MLC thing" and read Jim Conways book himself. He is sick regarding the actions of his son however at same time see whats happening. MY FIL actually went last week and changed all my H inheritances into my name only. If he comes around before he goes to his eternal reward then fine, both my H and myself will benefit. If my H is still "scrambling" and being irresponsible then girls and I will be taken care of.