It's important that we don't make them more unhappy than they already are because of the D.
FLTC, what are your plans with the children in April? I would think it would be important to focus on how you are going to act with them. My nephew (who was in high school when his parents divorced) said the one thing that he still resents is how his dad always was so sad and kept saying "it would have been better if your mother didn't leave". He told me if I could do one thing that would help D17 the most is not to act that way.
That won't be easy.....but what can we do to help you between now and April to prepare you for being with your children? How can you avoid talking about their mother and the impact on your life??? Is there a standard line you can use to change the subject? It's ok to vent here, but not in front of the children!
