I am pretty sure I am dealing with a very passive-aggressive husband. It is the first thing I have read where I go yeah, that was my life. I don't know if anyone else here has dealt with this. Funny, before I went NC with H, I kept finding myself saying to H, "Where is your anger?" or "Why don't you just yell?" or "Maybe we should just sit in a room and let it all out?" I feel his anger, but he won't express it openly.
Wow could I relate to this. My XH still hasn't let out the anger, not after his first M, (20+ years ago), and not after ours ended. He is on wife # 3, and I predict he will go to his grave never having let out the anger. The best relevant quote about his no anger denial-type that I have read is from Laura Day--something to the effect that the world as he knows it has fallen to pieces, and you would never know it to watch him going about business exactly as usual.
