Thank you SG. And thank you bear for bringing her to me!!
I do keep a solution journal...but I have to admit it hasn't been very solution based as of late. I need to go back and restart.
Ok...so it was a backslide. And it was the first conversation like this in 4 months. Given the nature of the letter he gave me...it seemed the right time to get some closure on things that I never got closure on. Not to mention I was breastfeeding our 4 month old S during the coversations so hormones may have been a factor with the emotions. I do think though that it gave him lots to think about. I hope he's thinking about it if nothing else. Seeds of doubt.
So if this didn't work...and nothing else I've tried is working. I guess I have some pretty serious 180's to do. I really need to give some thought to exactly what because I thought I was doing all the right things. Maybe I am and it's just going to take more time, I don't know.
I want to build this friendship with him. But I'm having a hard finding the balance between that and outright acceptance of the situation. Thanks again SG. I appreciate it. J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out