Make things better by looking ahead....

[sage]

Had a good day yesterday -- doing ok with my goal about keeping ow out of my head. when she creeps in, I just slam the lid back down on her!

What went well:

H and I went to a shelter last night to look at cats. we actually ended up walking out of there with 2 kittens! Brother and sister, now appropriately named "Jem" and "Scout". Jem is an orange tiger while Scout is a "diluted calico". They're both pretty scared right now -- we've got them holed up in the bathroom, pretty limited to the bathtub! Scout is quietly shy -- if you pick her up, though, she settles right in. Jem is nervously shy -- he's trying hard to battle his fears and eventually gets up the nerve to explore a bit. Pick him up and he'll purr in time!

H initiated a "champagne" evening. It gave us a chance to relax and enjoy each other's company. I love that he was the one that suggested it.

H talked with me last night about wanting a job. I offered my help in looking and he seemed receptive to that. He is very bummed that no one has even responded to his resume. He IS trying to make a big career transition during a very crappy job market so the lack of response isn't unreasonable or unexpected. Doesn't make it feel any better, I'm sure.

What didn't go well at first but later offered an opportunity:

When H brought up the job thing I offered my help. I realized this morning that what I didn't do was ask him what HE thought he should do! Arrgh. I am such a steamroller at times!!! I don't mean to be! I just get too excited that we're talking about "stuff". I felt pretty badly about it this morning so when h called (!!!) me at work, I casually mentioned that I had realized that I hadn't really asked him for his thoughts. He told me that he was kind of glad I hadn't asked because he was out of ideas! I apologized for steamrolling over him and he said "don't worry about it" (very earnestly) -- so, you know what??? I'm not gonna worry about it!!!!

Oh, another good thing...H asked me what we're doing tonight...then offered to go think about a plan....he definitely seems to be more open to initiating in the last week or so. This is GREAT!

Sage