My W did some of that. There would be something she wanted and she would present her request to me. I would not agree, but then the next time we spoke she would speak as if I had agreed to what she requested and try to put me on the defensive accusing me of "flip-flopping" or changing my mind.
Funny thing.............. Our young children display a very similar behavior, especially the 6 year old. He will ask for something and if you give him an indefinate answer, he assumes you agreed. (Maybe means yes?) Later if you tell him no, he's immediate response is "but you promised!"
I believe this happens with youngsters because they want something so badly they are communicating with their emotions and don't cognitively hear when you respond with no or maybe.
In mlc it's all emotions and something similar may be going on. They are so focused on what they want they block out or don't hear you saying no.
In mlc they really are functioning on the emotional level of a child;
They want it now They don't consider affects of their actions on others They don't understand why they can't have everything they want (now) They are totally irresponsible they only want to play They seek thrills
Their superego is dead. The id is in control.
"And Cain slew Able"
Last edited by sleeper; 02/21/0803:36 AM.
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
