I live in the same house with my H too. I don't talk to him about dinner. If I'm the cook (and I usually am), I cook. I try new things and just go on maintaining a peaceful household. I don't intentionally make something he won't like or cook too early (even though he comes home at different times). I act as if we're on a schedule. he knows about when we eat, he can be here or not (he doesn't call to let me know).
As far as what issues go long with conflict avoidant....here's a few:
1. Avoids occupational activities that involve significant interpersonal contact because of fears of criticism, disapproval, or rejection.
2. Is unwilling to get involved with people unless certain of being liked.
3. Shows restraint within intimate relationships because of the fear of being shamed or ridiculed.
4. Is preoccupied with being criticized or rejected in social situations.
5. Is inhibited in new interpersonal situations because of feelings of inadequacy.
6. Views self as socially inept, personally unappealing, or inferior to others.
7. Is unusually reluctant to take personal risks or to engage in any new activities because they may prove embarrassing.
I don't know how much of this (if any applies to your H). Some of it does apply in my house. I tend to keep certain things in mind about how I interact with h b/c of it. Will it help? Who knows. So far, it doesn't seem to have hurt.
I know you're feeling angry today. i hope you can do something to help alleveate that.
