Hi Brit, you are kind of quiet today. Hope all is well. Keep doing what you are doing. Continue to avoid initiating contact. Let your W reach out to you.
That is exactly what I have been doing...
This morning I picked up D from her house because the weather was bad - W had a really bad night with her. When I left, W gave me a hug and we did ILY. I asked her about our plans this weekend, and she said we can just drop D at her parents on Friday and go out together on Friday night. On Saturday night she is going out with friends from work - The W of a guy she works with has the same b'day as her, but W has to pay for her own dinner... I thought that was just retarded.
I've been avoiding talking to her during the day at work, but today she started to talk to me about D, then I kind of let the conversation run it's course. An hour or so later, W started talking to me again... Talked about some work stuff, talked about when we used to work together and some other things. Again, I let the conversation finish on it's own. After lunch, oh look, she's talking to me again.
Originally Posted By: lizzy
Be prepared for the fallout from her C appt. I wish she felt better than she does afterward.
Today was weird - She IM'd me to tell me she was on her way to therapy. I just told her okay, and to be careful on the roads. Didn't really expect to hear from her again today, and it was my night with D, so I just picked her up and off I went. So, maybe 6:15 when I was almost home, W called me and asked if I had picked up D. Er, yes, it's Wednesday, which is my day with D. Of course, I didn't say that - I just said I did and let D babble to Mommy for a while. W seemed to like that. W was really upbeat and sounded really happy. Short call, but whatever. D and I went to the store, so I called W back and asked if she wanted to share a rotisserie chicken with D and I - She said she already ate, but she told me a bunch of times "thank you for asking me" and was really disappointed that she had already eaten. Anyway, there were no chickens left, so D and I got some other stuff and came home. Figured I'd just IM W and let he know I didn't get a chicken anyway....
(6:49:52 PM) M: glad you already ate, because they had no chicken anyway :-/ (6:50:07 PM) W: dammit! (6:50:38 PM) W: well, let me know if you need me to pick one up for you after work sometime (6:50:47 PM) W: they always sell out
So, I guess we went from her not wanting me around, to her offering to pick up food for me for dinner. She seemed pretty cheerful after her therapy appointment, but I noticed that she went out and blew a bunch of money at Target and Home Depot - Her spending is out of control recently, which is a typical emotional response for her - She has admitted to me that it is a problem she has. She hasn't left her house at all in the last week for anything other than shopping.
