Make things better by looking ahead....

[sage]

Question: When you realize that you've lapsed into "pre-DB'ing bad behavior" do you apologize to your S or just get back on the horse?

Last week I realized too little too late that I had run over H's trying to tell me his feelings..

Today I realized that I did something that I don't think I've done in quite a while: ask him what he wanted to do tonight BEFORE telling him that I had a plan/some errands that I had to run. It smacked of the controlling/withholding info that I used to do all the time. I think I did it today because I was hoping that he'd be excited about being with me/making a plan. Turns out that he DIDN'T have a plan so I just jumped in with my own. Ugh. not sure I'm making any sense.

Sage