My husband is 33 and I definitely feel he's in MLC and have thought so since he dropped the bomb. He won't even consider it because, according to him, he's too young for one.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
I usually post in Infidelity, but wanted to say you aren't alone.
My H had an A this past summer, ended it on his own, but only to tell me that he still wants a divorce. He wants to date, wants his freedom, wants to be single (and wants to be young again. He doesn't say that, but I know it from his actions). He considers himself divorced already and tells new people in his life just that.
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but it confirms for him the fact that he wants to date other people and doesn't feel like he's committed to his commitment anymore
Ah yes. H tries to explain that he really didn't cheat, because he was 'done' with me prior to the A. He also thinks that dating now is appropriate (although he claims not to be involved, my gut tells me otherwise) since we are on the path to a divorce. Keep in mind, his path of divorce is doing nothing, as he hasn't ever even met with an attorney...
Hang in there, there is still a chance your H (since he recently moved out, I believe) will see the huge mistake he is making. Glad to see he spends more time with D though, that's always a good thing.
