Quote: Have you made it this far? Jeez! I don't even have anything to offer up as a reward! Just thanks, I guess!
it's always a pleasure to read your stuff..
lot's of stuff there...
you are right...sage has sage stuff that sage must deal with on her own...cause after all it is sage's stuff. h can be there as somewhat of a support etc...but it is not his responsibility to make up for things that he didn't do.
then we have the things he did do...well we have to step back and realize that yes what he did do hurts...but how much of the pain is a direct result of his doing and how much of it is still tied to the old sage stuff?? again can't make h responsible for things he didn't do.
it's hard to do..but we must seperate our past from our future..we must get past the woes of our upbringing and break free from it..realize that was then this is now..we are in control of the car and we don't have to stay in the house and cry out for dad to help..we are the adults now..
but then we are left with what our h's have done??
will they do it again??
have they choosen us?? really chosen us??
I keep thinking that if I didn't have children and h came back then I'd know it was me he chose, but I see so many who don't have children and still feel unchosen...
sage there have been many signs that h is choosing you...he may not be yelling it from the roof tops but he is showing you he's choosing YOU!! and after all why wouldn't he??? you certainly are choosable!!
