Maybe, it's because there was still a small feeling of hope that your H would make the choice to come home. And, perhaps your heart and mind knows that that's not going to happen any time soon, and you are fighting it a bit??? I think you should acknowledge how you are feeling and then envision the sadness/depression/negativity floating away. Just realise (this was one of my big epiphanies in life), that life is just too short to hang onto something that just won't be hung onto. Hope that makes sense. There's a big, wide world out there that still needs to be discovered (or, rediscovered), and so many new people to meet, and so many interesting stuff to learn, and do. It all goes on, with or without your H.
'Eh! I hope I haven't made you feel worse. Maybe another li'l joke might help? Villager: It was 'ere that Catherine of aragon was bitten by a mad dog. Tourist: Tudor? Villager: Yes, chewed 'er something 'orrible it did.
and
A woman goes into an antique shop and says to the owner, "when I was in here last week I saw a big mug with a flat head that holds a lot of beer. I'd like to buy it." "Sorry," replied the owner, but I can't sell you that." "Why not asked the customer?" "Because that's my husband."
Made me giggle a bit.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim