Make things better by looking ahead....

[sage]

I'm sorry about your cat. This is extremely difficult to handle at the end. I went through this several yrs ago with my previous cat. I still get emotional thinkg about her. She was 19yrs old.

Thanks for the kind words, Caz. A few years ago our cat got hit by a car and we almost lost her. In many ways it allowed me to really value the time that we have been able to spend together (wonder if I'll feel the same about my M!). Then, about 8 months ago, we found out about her tumor -- once again, she rallied valiantly and we got at least 5 months together that we didn't think we'd have. Now it's starting to affect her eye and she seems to be getting worse and worse. I've been talking to her and telling her that it's ok to "let go" but I'm afraid, well, you know what I'm afraid of.

We found out about the tumor around the same time that h dropped the bomb. For a long time there I was afraid that if the cat died, h would leave.

Wanted to let you know that I checked in. I definitely have learned alot this weekend and your thoughts on insecurities and controlling issues may apply to me. I don't have much to offer in advice today becuase I'm in thinking mode myself.

Oooh... sounds like you had an elightening weekend! I'll wait patiently for you to update your thread. Know that I'm thinking of you...

Good Luck with your C tonight. I hope you gain some understanding on how to deal with the anger. Hopefully you will share.

I was sitting in a meeting and realized that it was crazy for me to go to my C session while my h was going to be at the vet with our cat. I'm not even sure what I was thinking in terms of priorities!!! So, I cancelled C. I'm pretty sure that the anger at ow will keep for another 2 weeks...

Sage