Still dealing with my OWN issues.

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are you guys going to MC? sounds like you both need to get lost of things out in the open.

My self stem took a nose dive after my H left, and even as he came back it never really was the same (when he came home he wasn't good in compliments anymore and our SL was just getting back to normal). I found myself comparing my body to any woman around, trying in that way to feel good in some way, to wonder why my H wasn't into me anymore. I look much better than when my H left, yet the insecurities where huge.
One wants the men to make you feel like you are enough. And that isnt' the way it should be, it should come from inside. YOU are responsible for your own happiness. If you let your fear rule your mind you will push your H out the door with your own hands.
It's ok to feel a bit afraid, but if you act upon any emotion that jumps into your brain you will push your H farther. Men love a confident woman, you were like that before, be that person again. An awesome book is " Men, Love & Sex: The Complete User's Guide for Women", you will learn TONS of what to do as well as to what NOT to do.