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As you really dropped the rope and realized that D doesn't have to be the END of you did you grieve again?


As I remember it, I had one, ok 2 crazed days when served. I called my H and called him every name I could think of (I had asked to be warned before the papers came so the kids wouldn't see that, and it didn't happen). I spent the next two days crying my eyes out...to the point that my oldest son sat at the side of my bed until I fell asleep one night. It was awful. And then, (yes, I'm getting to the point now), I stopped that. I didn't want to be seen like that. Yes, I do save some whiny episodes for Mer, but that is it. From that point forward I decided that I was worth way more than how my H was treating me, and that I was going to have a great life. I guess this would be the point that I realized that the D didn't have to be the end of my life, and so, unlike you, I was done grieving. I started to get excited about my life.

But, we DBers are not all cut from the same cookie cutter. And, we all have different things going on... kids or no kids, younger or older kids, ow or no ow, etc. So, if your way is to peel slowly, then so be it. You know this about yourself. Find a way to work with it. Which, by the way, you are doing admirably.

See, just cuz TV night worked for me, it doesn't mean it would work for someone who is feeling too raw to have their H around, eating up all their hot wings and chips. I am just here to offer what worked for me, and hopefully to help you to find what works for you. Well, really I am just here to say, "what she said," every time Meredith writes. ;\)

And, Mer, for the record, we were outta touch during your D and letting go period. You came back in my life with uh, other fish to fry, so to speak. So, I am not sure how you handled this, but I am guessing awesomely.

And, by the way, what is it with you calling me CMNM? I prefer Pam, thankyouverymuch. \:\) How funny...aren't you the same girl who posted my state, H's name, and probably my social security number too?