Starshyne,

You can learn about sex without having it with other people. How about doing some reading, like "The New Good Vibrations Guide to Sex"

Also, it sounds like you may want to do some work on getting in touch with your own sexuality: "For Yourself : The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality"

As for your H, you can't control his libido, which is probably very suppressed if he is depressed.

But, you can make yourself more of a sexual being. Embrace that side of you, sexual intimacy is part of romantic love, open yourself to it.

Best,
Oldtimer