All my treads are very old. I know some are gone forever, lost in a computer snafu years ago. Most of the people I knew here are gone. I still keep in touch with some off board, and I still come back from time to time to help if I can but mostly when I need a PMA adjustment.
Briefly, W dropped the bomb while involved in a torrid PA. She never left, but moved to the guest room for effectively an in-house separation. That was very hard. She emotionally left and was planning happily ever after with OM. She completely left emotionally, the marriage was over to her. She hired a lawyer and "began the process". I did all the wrong things, I begged, I tried to control, nearly drove her completely away. I came here and got lots of good help, and eventually busted the divorce. It was not easy. It is the hardest thing I ever did in my life.
