No children to draw him back.....no what???

[NikB]

Sorry that you find yourself here. You need to go straight to the Last Resort Technique and skip all the "how to fix your marriage" tips for right now.

Clearly it was not a happy, healthy marriage and then BAM he kicked you out one day. I'd think about what was wrong in your M/R, and see if there are any of those things that you would like to change about yourself. If so, work on those things. Don't worry about him "seeing" it or how it impacts him, for now. Make the changes for you.

How long were you married, and what things does he complain about? What was different in the beginning and when did things start to change? (it's probably a LOT longer ago than you realize). Maybe we can help come up with some 180 ideas for you.

Wow my daughter who is 14....he says he can't even talk to her because he would have to be near me. I am like then email her and text. But no he wants no contact with her either. So he has yet to tell her sorry or keeep in touch or anything.

Was this a reply to a guilt trip from you? Kinda sounds like it. Any attempt to control his actions, or make him feel anything (guilt or anything else) are going to backfire on you right now.