CONTACTING OW/OW'S HUSBAND

[Snow White]

Neecy,

Any chance your husband can transfer? How much contact do they have at work?

I'm wondering how she would have reacted if you had responded on the text messages and said something like, "___ and I are having a fabulous time! Thanks for your thoughts..." In otherwords... acting like she was YOUR friend too... and also, letting her know you see her messages... that they aren't secret. That may help deflate things a little. Once the secrecy is gone the excitement usually tones down......

Unfortunately, seeing you as an advisary might make her work harder at trying to win your H over. And she might think, "Wow she really is a bit@h, no wonder he wants to leave her...." This makes it easier to validate to herself what she's doing.

She actually was just transfered as a manger of another store, my husband was supposed to be transferred there too and somehow during the course of it "everyone" found out that they had something going on. His reason for the texts in FL. I have never read what was written just see a count on the telus bill. The original EA was found out by the bill and the 200 calls (1 and 2 min) in the month of December. She is still not answering his calls and his claim is that he needs to know what went down at work with everyone finding out before he can make a decision on our marriage. If you take a peek at my thread (something like so confused not sure what hand i'm playing) you can see the pprogress, it has been a gradual unfolding of deception that peaked the other day. All of this coincides with her moving out last weekend(H claims not to have known that happened).