Make things better by looking ahead....

[sage]

Do you really feel your H has one foot out the door? 'Cause I don't get that sense from your posts at ALL!

I guess I'd say that one foot out the door is a little strong...I will say that I think that he is keeping the "getaway" door slightly ajar. It hasn't been THAT long since he told me he wasn't sure about staying M. I DO think that he's much closer to me than he was some months ago....I think his struggle is wondering if he can get what he "needs" in our R. (Note that this is a HUGE ASSumption on my part -- pure interpretation).

Is it because he hasn't said in words that he wants to be with you...make things work...is committed to this?

IS there anything he could say that would ease your mind? Or IS this really something in YOU that you need to work on?

I don't know the answer, perhaps its a combination of both.

Yah -- you know me, Ms. I-need-words! I think it IS a combo of both -- much in the way that the aftermath of the ea was....I needed to strengthen and heal myself but I also felt very stuck until I got some words from H.

In this case, I think I'm not "listening". I just posted above that H. IS saying stuff...I'm not sure I'm hearing it....

Sage