My husband and I have been seperated for 4 and a half months. He threw me and my daughter our of the house when he was on abike trip with his father and it has been no looking back ever since. I didn't cheat or look at another man, I didn't ask him for money, jewerly or cars. I just wanted his time..something he couldn't give me. His friends and family were more important. We always going to see his family or out to dinner with his friends. he ate lunch everyday with them and I work with them but I was never invited. The main reason he said he left was because of them....I was jealous of them and they were more important. (Deosn't help that all his friends are single and many under the age of 26 and he is 38 and we work on a college campus.)
So here I am. We have not seen each other and we have only spoken 4 times. Each time he has been down right cruel and hateful. He is mad at me of all things. He kicked us out and he is mad at me???? He says there is no way in heck we will get back together that he is happier now and can not even speak to me or even be in the same room with me. If he is so much happier why is he angry at me?
I have been reading and now rereading the book and how can I implemet what I am learning if I can't get him to speak to me? We have 7 and a half months to go before we can file. The last 2 times we have talked I have been very plesant and upbeat. Telling things about the cats and my daughter. But each time he resorts to name calling, put downs and basically treating me like ****.
Wow my daughter who is 14....he says he can't even talk to her because he would have to be near me. I am like then email her and text. But no he wants no contact with her either. So he has yet to tell her sorry or keeep in touch or anything. Just kicked her out also. Like he said we both don't exist for him.
So how in the world can I try the tools in the book is he is not seeing me or talking to me? Do I just let go and say well it is over???
