Make things better by looking ahead....

[sage]

The source of the insecurities you feel don't come from H or OM but from within. The source is your own self-doubt if the changes you've made are good enough or will continue.
To keep the positives going (and this include remaining positive about how you feel about yourself as well as in M) , keep concentrating on doing what works and continue to strive to work on becoming a better person because you want to strength the attract already has towards you. Keep doing it until is seems like second nature, and you will discover a new level of self-confidence and that self-confidence will strengthen even more the bond that draw him closer and sets the stage to move beyond this. Because of your newly gained self-confidence, you will not need to seek his reassurences and by the building bond between you will feed you more and more of the things he does that lets you know he is happy being with you.

KAW -- I know that you are absolutely correct. I don't know how I got to the point where I lost so much of "me" and good feelings about myself -- did I ever have them? I've spent too much time wanting H. to reassure, to fill the void, to make me feel better about who I am. I know that I need to rebuild me for me...

The "doing what works" is such an amazing concept. I've been thinking a lot about trying to incorporate small things every day that keep the "insecurity wolves" at bay.

I'm glad to hear that this outlook has helped you reach a solid state in your own R. Gives me lots of hope!

Sage